tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6887747288999897951.post6021423538896025490..comments2023-08-18T10:03:06.241+02:00Comments on Lessons I've learnt: Biting the hand that freesLessonzhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01749173668480866403noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6887747288999897951.post-44564520872858233792014-07-10T00:22:35.677+02:002014-07-10T00:22:35.677+02:00Hi Welli,
A scorpion response is rude, hurtful a...Hi Welli, <br /><br />A scorpion response is rude, hurtful and can be useful. Sometimes it tells me I've hit on a deep wound of the "scorpion" that my actions have triggered. Maybe I really do need to back off and away. Or maybe I need to see things differently. I can ask myself: "Is my helpfulness really help?" Many years ago I read a Robin Norwood book that opened my Ramonahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16040316721865494269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6887747288999897951.post-8440343466303496562014-06-13T13:21:31.315+02:002014-06-13T13:21:31.315+02:00Several years back I was working with a personal c...Several years back I was working with a personal coach and as part of the process I was asked to get my husband, a friend and a colleague to fill out a questionnaire. When the resuts came in, I was told that I showed the same personality traits at work as I did at home. This didn't phase me at all, seemed like an obvious outcome, but my husband and friends all expressed surprise. They said Debra Yearwoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04251969031066243582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6887747288999897951.post-21063259208405207192014-06-12T16:49:39.966+02:002014-06-12T16:49:39.966+02:00Good day Welli,
Sometimes I realize that I'm d...Good day Welli,<br />Sometimes I realize that I'm dealing with a scorpion and will still help, but their are days when I'm dealing with that same scorpion and will just leave it be because I know the outcome. It is at this time that I think wait that is not who I am and I refuse to let this scorpion Change who I am because they can't are the good that I am trying to do. <br />ThanksJayhttp://ballnchainz.com/the-dvr-the-wife-and-me/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6887747288999897951.post-20153222064030924112014-06-11T20:13:09.417+02:002014-06-11T20:13:09.417+02:00I really like the story of the scorpion. It's...I really like the story of the scorpion. It's a good example to use. It's always been my nature to be helpful so I try my best. However, if after several attempts I don't see any progress - I move on and wait for the person to approach me if they need help.Mina Joshihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00021299909319429438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6887747288999897951.post-36561689993399136222014-06-11T00:35:21.672+02:002014-06-11T00:35:21.672+02:00I'll always make every best effort to kill som...I'll always make every best effort to kill someone with kindness. I found it odd that my mentor teachers always told me to get more in touch with my darkside, because I don't have much of one at all. That being said, over the years one does get better at learning where and how to more effectively channel their efforts to better deal with the scorpions ;) JeriWBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04560326888524377308noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6887747288999897951.post-8534808587514856062014-06-10T20:34:05.096+02:002014-06-10T20:34:05.096+02:00The scorpion story raises interesting questions an...The scorpion story raises interesting questions and gives food for thought. I don't think we should be helping people just because we expect gratitude or something in return. But I don't know how long we should persist. Sometimes our definition of "help" may not be what is truly needed. Certainly something to think about.Donna Jankehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16654611289969837061noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6887747288999897951.post-58285176767826331932014-06-10T17:16:59.428+02:002014-06-10T17:16:59.428+02:00I think we expect because you give we expect the o...I think we expect because you give we expect the other person to give back. When you think like that you are setting yourself up for failure. If you accept that person, bug or animal to behave in a certain way, that is your perception. We look at things differently and really do not know what the other person is truly thinking. The scorpion bit back because of fear. That was instinct, leaving Arleenhttp://www.garrettspecialties.com/blognoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6887747288999897951.post-7028225268812865472014-06-09T18:00:32.882+02:002014-06-09T18:00:32.882+02:00I guess I continue to try and help however it only...I guess I continue to try and help however it only takes one sting and I am out of there. You get trust out of the gate, no earning needed, but once it's lost...it's lost. Maybe that's a little harsh.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6887747288999897951.post-30117645005003351742014-06-09T17:13:53.714+02:002014-06-09T17:13:53.714+02:00I have been having this same exact conversation th...I have been having this same exact conversation this week about family and people I have worked with. You give and give and give, I don't often ask for help in return... Well, I did ask one person last week for something small and they have not communicated back after I gave a lot. That one I put down to me, what do they say? Shame me once, shame on you, shame me twice... A well timed timed Claire Cappettahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04666702393365398789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6887747288999897951.post-59988158535585209452014-06-09T16:42:08.067+02:002014-06-09T16:42:08.067+02:00The scorpion story is an interesting one, because ...The scorpion story is an interesting one, because to me it begs the question is it even a good idea to try to help in some cases? I believe every person and creature is worthy of saving and helping, but in some cases, would it be better to wait until that person is ready to accept help, then you aren't both injured in the process? Just a thought...Meredith @ The Palette Musehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11786583611080068454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6887747288999897951.post-81615517053256677222014-06-09T03:52:50.870+02:002014-06-09T03:52:50.870+02:00I believe in giving. Being of service. If someone ...I believe in giving. Being of service. If someone shuns me, I don't persist (unless it is an emergency, like a health situation). There are plenty of people in this world that will willingly take advice and wish others would stop and give it. I like to consider myself as one of those people. It always comes back ten-fold!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16226637958169139962noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6887747288999897951.post-10823295319457094582014-06-09T03:38:23.710+02:002014-06-09T03:38:23.710+02:00Actually as I thought about this, I am a chameleon...Actually as I thought about this, I am a chameleon of sorts. I think it comes from a sales background. I learned to sell the way the customer buys, not the way I like to sell. That often met I would have to meet someone in person (aarrgghh!) instead of calling them on the telephone. Or join them at a networking event (gag) instead of meeting them in their office. It usually didn't sting and Patricia Weberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12808010116968226575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6887747288999897951.post-35497214110638114832014-06-08T22:22:01.818+02:002014-06-08T22:22:01.818+02:00Hi Welli, I would like to claim that I persist but...Hi Welli, I would like to claim that I persist but outside of family members I usually do not. Gratitude is certainly not required but hostility is not accepted. Probably I tell myself that one only has a certain capacity to give and should focus it on those who will grasp the benefit and help themselves but there is also an element of just not needing negative people in my life and perhaps that Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11727250525246193630noreply@blogger.com